The Relationships Wife Keep Her Happy

8:58 PM in a, break, divorce, Get Ex, happy, her, hope, is, keep, my, relationships, stop, surviving, the, there, up, wife

If you’re the relationships wife, you know you’re not in an easy position. You might feel put upon, as if everything from the home to some of the income is your responsibility. For years men worked while the wife took care of hearth and home. Today’s relationships wife is supposed to work and do it all with a smile on her face!
But you can’t do it all, and you can’t have it all. At least you can’t without personal sacrifice and exhaustion. Add saving your relationship and preserving your marriage into the mix, and it’s a sure recipe for fatigue and depression.
When things have gone wrong in your relationship, you should remember that you’re not solely responsible for fixing them. He plays a part, too, and you should let him do equal duty or at least some of it. Everything that happens, good or bad, is not only because of the relationships wife.
And if you’re the husband and the idea of keeping her happy seems daunting, you must remember that you’re not solely responsible for her happiness either. You can contribute to it, and it’s pretty easy for you to ruin it, but whether or not she’s a happy person in general is mainly up to her.
It’s important for the relationships wife to understand that men and women have different needs. This is important for the husband to realize, too. When you’re trying to heal your marriage, it might be a good idea for both of you to read books that talk about the differences between men and women.
John Gray’s books about Mars and Venus are good for pointing out the very different ways men and women feel nurtured in a relationship. They also point out how differently men view emotional things than women, and how each sometimes has an approach that’s directly opposite of what the other person may want.
Even if you feel like you share things equally and have a very balanced relationship, you might discover that it’s not. The relationships wife will tend to fall into certain roles, just as the husband does. Reading books about these differences can be an eye opening experience.
Even if your spouse isn’t interested in reading such books, you should give them a try. It’s not easy to  heal a relationship when only one person seems to do all the work. But if you make an effort, very often it makes such a difference that the other person can’t help but change either.
It can be an unconscious thing, in fact. By learning the best way to approach your spouse about certain issues, or understanding the way he or she naturally deals with things, it makes you a more thoughtful and respectful partner.
That alone is enough to affect the other person’s behavior and make things better. You shouldn’t have to do everything, but this is one thing you must take upon yourself. Whether you’re the relationships wife or the husband, you’re capable of helping heal the relationship.

Read more

How to be nice to your ex girlfriend

7:37 PM in be, burn, ex, for, Get Ex, girlfriend, happy, how, nice, to, your

How to be nice to your girlfriend may be a question that is uppermost in your mind. It is strange how even the simplest of ideas sometimes becomes difficult when you are in a relationship. You may really have been trying to figure out some nice things to say to your girlfriend.

For many young men, it is quite a perplexing thing when it comes to figuring out how to be nice to their girlfriends. After all, men and women do think differently. Even the process of how their brains function is different. Women seem to be able to cross from the right side of the brain to the left, and back, much more frequently than men. No matter how much we try, it seems that we can be misunderstood.

Really, I think I understand you, and what you want is information on what it takes to be nice to your girlfriend. If you are in a serious relationship, you want to be able to tell her how you feel. Not only that, you also want to show her how you feel.

Here are some things that may help you if you want to learn how to be nice to your girlfriend in a way that she will really appreciate.

1. Realize that she does not have to be with you.

A good way to start is to understand that she does not have to be with you. I dont mean to sound uncaring, but the simple fact is that she is not really required to be with you in any way. Since neither of you have made the commitment of marriage, she could get out of the relationship at any time, and she would be perfectly within her rights to do so. This fact is not meant to alarm you or cause you to be in constant fear of her leaving, but it really should remind you of have valuable a creature she is.

2. Be sure to express the fact that you value her.

If you have not made the mistake of forgetting about her value or taking her for granted, you may probably still be wondering, "How can I genuinely be nice to her in a way that she will appreciate. In order to do that, you need to study her. Find out what kinds of things or actions she likes. You also need to know what kinds of things she responds to when it comes to affection. One popular writer has said that there are five types of love languages. You may think that saying, "I love you will be sufficient," especially if your love language is words. However, if her love language is "acts of service," she will respond better to you doing something nice for her. She may also respond better to physical touch than to words. Just knowing these things well help you very much when you attempt to be nice to her.

You can see from these ideas that it often is not only important to figure out nice things to say to your girlfriend, but it is also important to figure out nice things to do for your girlfriend.

Two things that will help, regardless of what her love language is, are showing respect to her, and listening. You probably can understand the respect issue, since for many men it is even more important to feel respected than to have romance feelings associated with affection. Actually, affection and respect are important to both husbands and wives and boyfriends and girlfriends--just their priorities are different. If you have been treating her with little respect, however, no matter what else you do, you will be likely to fail.

3. Learn to listen to her.

Sometimes men have a hard time of following the thought patterns of women; however, if you will pack your bags and go on the journey of conversation with her, that action will pay great dividends in your relationship.

4. Treat her like you would like to be treated.

Another thing you can do is to think about how you have been treating her. Would you appreciate it if she treated you in the same way? Perhaps if you have made some light-hearted comments, she has taken them seriously. Would you appreciate it if your jokes were said by her, but you didnt understand that she was joking.

5. Make a study of successful relationship techniques.

When you want to learn how to be nice to your girlfriend, you will do well to study the techniques that make for successful marriages, since that is the ultimate boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

Maybe you just need to have a frank discussion. Explain that you are really trying to be nice to her. Explain where you have felt misunderstood. Good communication goes a long way in any relationship.
In trying to figure out how to be nice to your girlfriend, you have seen that it is important not only to figure out nice things to say to your girlfriend, but it is also important to figure out nice things to do for your girlfriend as well. If you need to get back together, these steps will help you as well.

If ;you take these five steps, you may have your problem of how to be nice to your girlfriend solved more quickly than you thought was even possible.

Read more

How To Keep A Woman Happy

5:18 AM in 10, 5, a, become, favourite, Get Ex, happy, how, internet, keep, my, on, reasons, the, things, to, vegetarian, woman

So you want to know how to keep a woman happy?  It is not easy to do but once you master it, you will win the heart of your woman forever.  So it is worth a try right?
A Woman sometimes just needs to talk.  Men are programmed to find solutions to every problem but sometimes we just want you to listen to us.  We dont want you to look after us or solve every issue we raise but just to listen.
Yes I know she can spend two hours on the phone to a friend that she is meeting that afternoon anyway.  It goes back to the days of cavemen. Whilst the men were out hunting, the women were at home where their ability to bond with others was directly proportionate to their chances of survival. They depended on the other women to look after them and their families should they fall sick. Childbirth in those days often resulted in a death sentence for these women. 
Women like to go to the toilets in twos and threes.  It is just a girl thing and the sooner you come to accept it the better.  Dont get paranoid, we are not going to discuss you in detail - that will happen tomorrow.
Buy your lady flowers. But rather than buying her a bunch of roses, send her one of her favorite flowers every so often. This way she will know that you are thinking of her rather than just making a grand gesture.
Little things mean a lot to most women.  So regardless of the fact that you are working 60 plus hours per week to pay your mortgage or put the kids through school, always find time to ring her at least twice a day. Ring to say that you miss her and then ring her back later on to tell her what time you expect to be home.
Say thank you when she does something ordinary.  Everyone including women like to be appreciated so if you come home and it is obvious she has cleaned the bathroom, notice it and make an effort to keep it clean.  That means helping your towel to find its way off the bathroom floor.
If your woman has had a hard day at the office, run her a hot bath and hand her a glass of chilled wine whilst you put the kids to bed and prepare dinner.   Don’t ruin it by expecting sexual favors in return.  In a recent survey, when women were asked what would make them happy, one of the most common answers was to be kissed without being groped!
Surprise her with a note under her pillow telling her how much you love her or appreciate her.  Ok she will probably assume you have done something wrong and wonder if you are feeling guilty but underneath she will be pleased.
Making a woman happy involves doing the little things in life just that little bit more.

Read more

How to become friends with your ex girlfriend

3:48 PM in a, be, become, ex, for, friends, Get Ex, girlfriend, good, happy, how, to, with, your

All of these ex-girlfriend horror stories you guys have been sending in got me thinking: Can you really ever be friends with your ex? That depends on several factors: When did you date? And how long did you date? For our purposes, let’s assume an "ex-girlfriend" constitutes someone you dated for at least one year and did one or more of the following activities with: roller skating, apple picking, brunching on the regs, couch shopping, play-fighting that turns into actual fighting, pottery making, butt-licking, mutually resenting, butt licking while mutually resenting. In these instances, it is impossible to stay friends with an ex-girlfriend, unless friends means that you have consistent, exclusive sex and vacation with each other’s parents.

I saw an ex-girlfriend last weekend; here’s an actual snippet of our conversation: "Oh, is it 6? I have to take my pill. Don’t want to forget that one, haha." Yeah, HILARIOUS. LOOK AT THIS GIRL WITH THE JOKES. Let me break this down; "pill" is another way of her saying "the thing that I take to keep me from having babies because of all the sex I’m having"; and "don’t want to forget that one" means, "if I have a baby, I’ll need to stop with all the great sex I’m having with people that aren’t you... Also, remember when I made you wear condoms? Well, f*ck you."

Now I was completely unaffected emotionally by this (I wish her nothing but the best — I’m only writing an article on the Internet about it), but competitively, I just can’t let this go. What can I do? Is there a Man equivalent to the “I have to take the pill” line?

At that moment, I wish I could have reached into my pocket, pulled out a used condom, flopped it down on the bar and — as my semen splashed all over her face — said, "Oops! Is it 6? I forgot to take this used condom out of my pocket from the sex I had earlier. Anyway, what were you saying about your friend with cancer?" And then she would have licked a bit of my c*m from the side of her mouth and said, "My God, it still tastes like all of my dreams." But of course none of that happened. All I could do was fumble around for something to say -- so now I look uncomfortable, BUT NOT BECAUSE I CARE! It’s because I want to win at the game she decided to start. If someone put a Connect 4 game in front of you, YOU’RE GOING TO PLAY SOME FUCKING CONNECT 4! So she walks out of the bar, thinking, "Oh, he misses me," but in reality, she started this "ex-dance" and I happened to slip on the banana peel she placed on the dance floor of resentment.

This is exactly why you can never stay friends with an ex. Inherent in the designation of ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend is "you weren’t good enough for me." It’s a simple fact, and millennia of evolution have trained us to be competitive to survive. There’s this segment of girls that believes they are above the fray, that ex-boyfriends are just a great opportunity to have another close friend. This is a repulsive denial of the highest order: a sneaky trick. They are aware of the competition (sometimes subconsciously), and their tactic is to pretend that no game even exists.

Imagine children playing tag, and one kid says the game is over, she’s not playing tag anymore, and then comes up to you, says "Game’s back on! TAG YOU’RE IT! I HAVE GREAT SEX WITH OTHER DUDES!" Except we’re adults, and these women will suck you in with gifts, dinner, dangle the opportunity of casual sex just in front of you, and then just randomly let their diaphragm fall out of their vag*na as you’re walking out of the restaurant, and give you a look that says, "Huh, must’ve gotten pounded loose last night -- that guy had amazing core strength." They are Trojan horses, making you take your guard down, assuring themselves victory.

What can a reasonable man do? The only way to handle this is to never let them in. Unless you truly believe there is a possibility that you will get back together with her (there isn’t), why bother? You know how you win the game? Stop playing it. Don’t call her, don’t text her, ignore her invitations to come "hang out with her and her friends." She only wants you around so she can prove she’s better than you. That sounds cynical, but I really mean that. She has an obsession with the attention, she can’t handle not having it, she can’t handle the idea that she’s no longer wanted. It will drive her insane.

And after you spend a few months doing that, and she’s at her lowest, most desperate point... call her up. Hopefully, she remembered to take her pill at 6 p.m., because it will be the best hate-sex of your life.

Read more

Tips On How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

5:41 PM in arms, back, boyfriend, ex, get, Get Ex, happy, her, how, in, keep, on, relationships, the, tips, to, ways, wife, your

Getting dumped by your boyfriend is no fun and if youre still in love with him then youre probably desperately trying to find help on how to get your ex boyfriend back.  Following the tips Im about to outline for you is a great start that will set you on the right road to winning him back.

The worst thing that you can do in your quest to understand how to get your ex boyfriend back, is to get desperate and needy.  Desperate and needy spells out of control and high maintenance.  Boyfriends hate out of control and high maintenance because it means they never know what youll do and where youll do it and so theyre never at ease.  Letting your ex boyfriend see that youre out of control is a surefire way to drive him away, so if this is you, you need to stop.

Not only that in this state, you hand over far too much power to your ex boyfriend and you could find yourself taken advantage of big time.  So if you want him back, dont set yourself up for a possibly painful and frustrating time.

What you should also avoid is to make yourself too readily available to your ex as you try and work out how to get your ex boyfriend back.  Show him that you value and have pride in yourself and that youre not sitting home waiting for him to call.  Get out and about and show him that youve got your life together and that youve taken the breakup in your stride.  Having him believe anything else makes your goal to get him back an up hill battle that you will probably lose.  So dont sit at home obsessing about what he might or might not be up to.  Get yourself out!

If you want to get your ex back, make sure that youre looking after yourself.  After all, you need to give him something to want to come back to and that means not letting yourself go.  Instead of staying home consoling yourself with chocolate and soda make sure that you hit the gym and keep on hitting it!  Start eating healthily and be sure youre always looking your best when youre out and about.  Not only will all of this make you look good, but it will do the world of good for your self-esteem which has no doubt taken a huge blow through all of this.

Now everything outlined works together, so if youre after the best results dont apply each step in isolation.  They all impact on each other and thats how you should use these steps when youre trying to understand how to get your ex boyfriend back.

Read more

How To Save My Marriage

7:31 PM in a, back, battle, ex, for, Get Ex, happy, heart, her, how, keep, marriage, my, save, to, win, woman

Do you wonder “how to save my marriage?”  This article tells you how to save your marriage.
First, you need to identify the trouble in your relationship.  Some common troubles include:
· Money concerns
· Child rearing difficulties
· Lack of sex
· Lack of communication
· Loss of identity
And, of course, there are many others.  You may discover that there is one main problem or you may identify several smaller problems that are eating away at your marriage. 
When you identify the problem or problems that are at the root of your marriage troubles, you will be able to move on to the next step which is close, personal interaction.
In this step, you will need to be open to extensive conversation.  If you have not had a lot of open communication during your marriage, you may want to consider counseling in order to facilitate the personal interaction that is key to this step. 
If you really want to save your marriage, you will set aside time to work on your marriage issues every single day.  You could set aside some time like after the children go to bed or you could decide to take a walk after dinner every day for just the two of you.  But, you should plan to get back in touch with each other.  A daily habit of quality time with your spouse is very important.
Take some “romantic time” each week.  For some couples, this means reinstating a “date night” every week.  On Tuesdays, for instance, you get a sitter and go out for a picnic or walk around the mall.  As you can see, this doesn’t have to involve wine and roses every week, but a romantic time that you can look forward to all week is essential.
As you spend time together being romantic and discussing your problems, you must have an open mind toward what your partner is telling you.  You need to understand that a lot of the problems in your marriage are caused by – get this – you!  Until you really listen to your partner, you are not going to be able to effect the kind of personal change necessary to save your marriage.
You need to have faith in your partner.  You need to give him or her the benefit of the doubt.  You need to believe that the marriage still can and will work.  You also need to believe that your partner is still essentially the same person he or she was when you married them.  If you cannot have faith in your partner and in your marriage, you might as well give up now.
Finally, you have to be open to forgiveness.  If your partner has made mistakes – even major ones – you must be able to forgive.  If you insist that there are things that cannot be forgiven, there is no hope for your marriage. 
Everyone makes mistakes.  Some people make big mistakes.  If that person makes a genuine apology – which includes acts of contrition and an effort to change – they deserve forgiveness.
This article gave you answers to that perplexing question, “how to save my marriage.”

Read more

How to be happy for your ex girlfriend

8:17 AM in act, avoid, be, ex, for, Get Ex, girlfriend, happy, how, my, to, towards, your

Listen to this song while you read. Itll be a full hub experience!!!

Its your worst nightmare. Not only did you suffer a horrific break up and spend the past few weeks fluctuating between sobbing and throwing things at your wall/TV/computer, but now your ex has gone and found someone new. How in the world are you supposed to see him around town and smile happily at him and his new beau?

Aside from relocation to another country (which is super inconvenient), here are some tips on how to be happy for your ex once he finds someone new:

Simple and Complete Avoidance (at the very least, in person)

The easiest way to be happy for your ex is from a distance. If youre not in the same vicinity, you can put on your veil of "Good for you, I dont care", without having to stare him straight in the eyes and attempt to fake an emotionless expression when he tells you hes moved on to someone new. Even a phone conversation is better than seeing him in person. The further the distance away from him, the easier it will be for you to move on and one day not want to trip his new girlfriend when shes walking down the stairs wearing 5 inch heels.

Bad at avoiding people? Here are some suggestions on where to start:

- Change grocery stores, banks, dry cleaners, coffee shops, anywhere you think your ex might show up. Its these pesky every day locations that you end up running into people you dont want to see.

- Check his Facebook/Twitter/etc. if you know youre going somewhere he likes to go (i.e. bar, club, other fun outing type place). This sounds stalkerish, but you can avoid an awkward encounter if you see that hes planning an outing to said place on the same night youre planning on being there. If his profile is private and you cant see it, find a friend of his who has a public profile. Its amazing what you can find...Im not the only one whos noticed this, right? Im not an internet stalker, I swear.

- Wear a wig. Get glasses. Change everything about your appearance so he wont recognize you. Ok Im kidding. That would be crazy.

"Fake It Til You Make It"

If these techniques havent worked and you end up running into your ex, fake it. "Fake it til you make it" usually refers to your future fabulous career, but it can be used in various situations, such as how you feel about yourself, and being happy for your ex. Pretend that youre happy for him, put on your best brave face, and one day youll find that you dont have to pretend anymore. This sounds silly, but it actually works.

Avoid his Facebook/Twitter/social media anything

Looking at his Facebook/Twitter/blog/whatever will only make matters worse. Dont torture yourself by scanning for pictures of your ex and his new girl or finding someone whos friends with her on Facebook so you can see what your ex writes on her wall. If you really want to be happy for your ex, youve got to let go of the past. And its impossible to do that when youre intertwined with your exs future with his new girl.

Find Someone New Yourself

Living well is the best revenge. Its one of my favorite sayings, and its also 100% true. Start dating again yourself (but only when youre ready). Dont rush into a new relationship--find somebody cute and have a few fun dates. If youre concentrating on a new someone, itll be easier to be happy for your ex and his new beau...or even better, not worry about what hes doing at all.

The Focus is Moving On, Not What Hes Doing

This is the most important part. Keep most of your focus on yourself and make yourself happy. It doesnt matter what hes doing in the long run or who hes dating. Hes ex, remember? Move on with your life day by day, until your life is uber fabulous again and youre not thinking about him anymore.

Read more