Monday, March 28, 2016

Steps To Get Your Ex Back After he Has Rebounded!

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By Joe Sharp

Though you thought you were dealt the harshest blow when the love of your life shocked you by breaking up with you, youve latterly learned that he is now seeing somebody else! You ask yourself how this is possible after all that you shared. Indeed you start interrogating what it was that you shared if your ex can so quickly rebound.

When folk rebound it is down to the fact he or she has simply taken the feelings theyd or still have for you and transferred them to some other person. Those feelings of love are real ; theyre just directed at the incorrect person. The reason folk regularly rebound is perhaps because its simpler to transfer feelings rather than deal with the loss due to the unexpected void in their lives.

Theres an upside to this. Rebounds dont sometimes last. That is, if you follow my recommendation, youve got a good shot of getting your ex back ; if you do not, you risk the rebound developing into a powerful bond. At the moment, the person thats in the relationship with your ex gets the best of both worlds, all of the feelings of love thrown at her without the commitment and work it took you to get there.

To get your ex back, step 1 is to implement the no contact rule. Theres truly no other way around this. This implies exactly as it sounds, no contact. Dont call to let your ex know you have their CD, dont call because you forgot to take his or her name off the joint checking account and you feel as though you need to tell him or her, just do it. It implies no contact.

Its best to move on with your life ; whether or not this means to get a pastime, go back to college, whatever it implies, it implies move on . If your ex calls to "dump" on you about issues she has with the rebound, offer to listen and your regrets that there are issues, but say nothing else. Express your hope that things work out and mean it. Above all, you would like your ex to be content, even if itss not with you. Whatever you do, dont express anything other than support. - 30535

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Sunday, March 27, 2016

How to evict my ex girlfriend

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I have heard it many times from a caller who rented a nice apartment and then thought he found a really nice girl. They date and soon he invites her to live in his place, or maybe she just does not leave one day when he goes to work and in fact moves her child in with her into your living room.

If the girl (or boyfriend) has been in your apartment more than 30 days the police WILL NOT help you. You must find relief in Housing Court. In fact, you can get in trouble by locking someone out who can establish they have lived in your apartment for 30 days.

While personally I do not feel this is a fair law, it is on the books and the police know it. There is however PLENTY we can do to get the person out within the law.

In this case, my secretary called the client in to our office to sign a Ten Day Notice to Quit (Licensee). The Notice was then served on the “ex “ in the manner provided and mandated by law. This notice is a prerequisite to being able to file a case in Housing Court of the City of New York.


You should, if it happens to you, not hesitate to call me or any other attorney who can prepare that Notice, have it properly served and represent you in the Holdover case.

I told the caller to look on the bright side, as if he had married the person he could not use Housing Court and would be stuck with a VERY EXPENSIVE divorce battle. Housing Court is much less expensive than a battle in the Supreme Court.

The client was fortunate in that it was he who was on the lease and not the ex girlfriend and equally fortunate in that he had never asked for money for rent and that the ex girlfriend had never paid any rent either. Since there was no relationship of Landlord and Tenant the case went as expected with the client obtaining a Final Judgment of Possession. A Warrant issued to the City Marshal and the ex girlfriend was required to move out.

Be aware that the Housing Court Judges have been known to give generous time for even a freeloader or squatter to move without great regard to the hardship of the tenant of record or the owner of the premises.
One lesson to take to heart is that if you think there will be a problem, consult with an attorney as soon as possible.

We don’t charge for consultations so you have nothing to lose by emailing or calling our office.

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Is Their A God Up There

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By L.J. James

There once was a young couple who lived in a beautiful town. They had the best of everything. Their love was strong and real. When their first child was born she was the most beautiful child they had ever seen.The couple believed their life to be perfect.

One day when their Daughter was about seven years old the Couple was in a car crash.Checking his wife right away the husband was relived to see she was ok. They both had received only a few scratches.They turned to check on their young daughter and as soon as they saw her both of them burst into tears.The wife started screaming NO GOD ! PLEASE GOD NO ! Their pain was felt by anyone and everyone who happened to be around them that day. The Beautiful young child had passed on and left this world .

During the funeral the deceased childs mother kept asking why ? Why my child? oh dear Lord why? People paying there respects to this wonderful couples most beautiful child tried to console her. They told her things like "It is the Lords will" and "She is in Heaven now" These things did not help the childs Mother and she cursed God Saying to the People "There is no God" for if there was such a God how could he allow something so terrible to happen? Surely he would have saved my child and she would still be here with us!!

Years passed by as they always do and the pain this Couple felt started to ease. They had more children over the years, all very beautiful None quite as beautiful as their first one.Their life went back to being as close to perfect as can be.But Every time the women heard something bad had happened in the world it reinforced her belief that there was no God and no Heaven up above,For surely no God would allow such terrible things to happen in this world !!!

One day as the Woman was walking to the store she heard these screams "NO LORD PLEASE LORD NO" The tone of the screams took her back to the death of her child and she ran toward the sound of them. She saw the woman who was screaming and behind her she could see a building on fire, My Child is in there Screamed the woman! Pointing to the building engulfed in flames. Knowing the pain this woman would go threw and not wishing it on anyone she raced into the building. Flames shot at her and she could feel them burning her but the pain was some where else and did not hurt her .As the flames got larger and the heat got much hotter the woman thought this is what hell must be like! Then she thought but there is no hell for if there is No God and No Heaven then there cant be a Hell can there? These thoughts passed threw the womans mind as she felt herself begin to grow tired.

As She felt herself about to pass out the Women saw a child in the distance and with new found strength she started walking towards the child. As she got closer she could see it was the most beautiful young girl she had ever seen . When she reached the child the child spoke hello mother it is I your Daughter the one killed in that car accident those many years ago. No the Woman said you are gone your Dead. Dead yes I may be Mother but gone no I have never left you .I have always been in your heart and you in mine. But I am with the Father now in the most Wonderful Kingdom imaginable. With who? asked the Woman , The Father God answered the child the one you denounced upon my death. No said the woman there cant be a GOD or a heaven For surely no God would allow the Terrible things to Happen that happen upon this earth. Terrible things are done by terrible people answered the child and they will answer for their sins in the afterlife have no fear of that my Mother, The Lord will see that justice is done.

But what of you asked the Mother you where not taken from me by a terrible person it was an accident why did the Lord take you from me. The Child smiled at her Mother and spoke Mother what you see as the most terrible thing ever is not. For I am in the Kingdom of the Lord and there is no greater reward then that ! My life on Earth was short Mother, I agree with you on that but Mother let me let you in on a little secret "All life on Earth is short" It is just a blink of the eye to the Father. Miss me Mother for I know you always will, But have faith in the Father for if you believe in him and follow his words you will be with me again one day and then you will feel no pain or sorrow ever again. The Mother reached down picked up her child closing her eyes and hugging the child to her bosom, She heard a voice that was not her Daughters say "I will always Love you my Child"

The woman opened her eyes and she saw lights and heard sirens and the voices of many people. Not sure what was going on she looked down at her child only to see that she was not holding her child but a small young boy. The Woman who she had seen screaming was grabbing for this child saying Thank you oh thank you Lord for sending this Woman to rescue my Child ,In my heart Lord I always knew you would save him, for surely you would never allow something so terrible to happen !!!!

By L.J. James AmericanBikerX.com - 30535

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Praying to get your ex back

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At the main site, theres an article on how to get back an ex with the power of prayer.

A lot of searchers come to the site looking for actual prayers to recite, and I think theyre not satisfied with what theyre finding. The article Im featuring tells you what to pray for, but doesnt give you the words to use.

So now, to complement the existing discussion of praying to get back together, Ive added a page of sample prayers to get an ex back, to be used in conjunction with the Magic of Making Up system.

I hope now that searchers who come to the site looking for actual prayers for getting back an ex will find what theyre looking for.

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I Want My Husband Back Some Tips For Reconciliation

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If you are separated from your husband physically or emotionally, the thought of the failure of your relationship can be unbearable. You do not want to give up on your marriage, so all you think is I want my husband back. Depending on the extent of the problems between the two of you, reconciliation can be difficult but not impossible.
You may have tried everything that you can think of to get him back to no avail.  Here are some other ideas to consider to help you reach your goal of reconciliation.
1. Give him some space.  Some men feel limited in their marriage, like they are boxed in. The more limitations he feels are placed on him may make him distant and emotionally unavailable due to this feeling.  By having a little freedom to tinker in the garage, watch sports or hang out with the guys on a regular basis, your husband will appreciate it and enjoy the time he spends with you and your family more.
2. Limit contact. If you are separated from your husband, keep your contact with him to a minimum. This is important because it will give him a chance to work through his feelings of the separation. While your separation has been very upsetting to you, it can be just as upsetting to him. You may be thinking I want my husband back so I need to talk to him and reason with him to pull your marriage together, but constant contact could prove to be more divisive than helpful. By limiting contact, you give both of you the time you need to step back and look at your situation objectively and make positive changes that can bring you together again.
3. Be introspective. Regardless of who is at fault for the problems in your marriage, both of you need to work together to mend your relationship. Be objective and take a look at your faults. Think about what you can do or changes you can make that can bring you together. This can involve being a better listener, nagging less or showing your husband more attention.
4. Set priorities. Your relationship with your husband may have deteriorated due to your work or other commitments outside of your home. Find ways to make time for your husband and show him how important he is to you. It is also important for him to do the same for you. As determined as you may to get your husband back, unless you both work towards a resolution it will not happen.
5. Listen. When he is ready to talk, make sure that you listen to everything he has to say as objectively as possible. Address any questions he has directly and communicate your feelings clearly to him. Have an honest discussion with him and make sure that he feels that he is heard and understood. This is an emotional situation that you are in, however be as calm as possible as getting upset will not be helpful. 

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What To Do When Your Ex Has Just Broken Up With You

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We all panic when we break up and when your ex has just broken up with you, you are likely to feel hurt, angry and perhaps a little bewildered.
So what can you do?  It really depends on whether you want this man or not.  If you dont want him in your life, allow yourself to grieve for the relationship and then look forward to having fun being single.  Dont waste time trying to get revenge on this man as you will only end up hurting yourself.
But if you really want this man in your life and perhaps feel your behaviour has contributed to the break up, there are a couple of things you can do.
Your first one is to let him know how you feel. Write him a letter, apologising for any bad behaviour and reminding him of the good times you shared together.  Dont be afraid to tell him how much he means to you and how much you miss him.
Assuming you get a positive response to your letter, agree to meet him but do so in a public place. This will help prevent your discussions turning into a huge argument. You will need to be prepared to tell your man how you feel. Dont hide your feelings. If you are angry tell him why but try not to turn the meeting into a blame fest.
This will not help you in convincing him that you are good together. Keep the conversation to facts and also use the word I and not you. For example you should say "I feel let down" rather than "you let me down". This is a lot less confrontational and less likely to cause offence or lead to another argument.
Allow him to criticise you as well.  It is best if this is done in a constructive way.  We all have our faults and some of your less attractive character traits may be, in part, to blame for why he broke up with you.
It is very important that you listen to what he says. Dont assume you know what he is trying to say. Encourage him to say what is on his mind as this is the opportunity for you both to work through any issues in your relationship and come out of this a stronger couple. He may have made the decision to break up, but your behaviour probably contributed to his decision.
Do not play games and dont feel that you have to hold something back in order to make him come back to you. This will only cause feelings of resentment which may lead to you splitting up again. Dont look on a breakup as a negative. All couples go through good and bad patches.  It is a normal feature of adult relationships.
Follow these tips and one day as a happy couple, you may actually be thankful that for the day you found out that your ex has just broken up with you.

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How to win your ex girlfriend back

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The good news is that it is definitely possible to win back your ex-girlfriend, even when it may seem hopeless.

The "bad" news is that it may take time to get back your ex and you need to find the right strategy. We will talk more about the right strategy below.

Here is an outline of the three basic steps that will maximize your chances to win back your ex-girlfriend:


STEP 1: Getting A Clear Head Again


If you feel very upset and hurt right now, then the first thing you need to do before trying to win back your ex-girlfriend is to give yourself at least some time to feel better again.

Do whatever works for you, such as long walks outside, meditation, movies, music, or even some form of therapy or spiritual soul-searching.

It is said that "tears cleanse the soul" and that is definitely true after a breakup.

It is a difficult time and it can feel truly devastating.

To get through this faster, it is best to allow yourself to feel the grief and heartache that come up. Yes, it feels uncomfortable, but it is much better than holding it in. Read our main article on how to get over a breakup.

The less upset you are, the more clearly you will see your situation and the easier it will be not to make these 7 very common mistakes when you try to win back your ex-girlfriend.


STEP 2: Why Do You Want To Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend?


Now you need to ask yourself why you want to win back your ex-girlfriend.

Be as honest as possible with yourself about whether you should win back your ex-girlfriend. It can save you a lot of heartache and misery later on.

You need to decide whether your ex-girlfriend is truly good for you.

Here is the link to our main article on this topic: Should you win back your ex-girlfriend?

If you are convinced that your break up was truly a mistake, then you can start preparing a good strategy or plan of action to win back your ex-girlfriend.


STEP 3: Your Plan of Action


We already looked at the common mistakes and what NOT to do when trying to win back your ex-girlfriend. Now let us look at what you can do to win back your ex-girlfriend.

You need a good plan of action.

You can either choose to create such a plan yourself or you can choose to apply proven strategies tested by thousands of others, such as the Get Her Back For Good Guide or The Ex Recovery System.

Every relationship is different, and so you will need to customize your strategy to win back your ex-girlfriend.

When considering your strategy to win back your ex-girlfriend, it is especially important to keep two things in mind:
  • the specific reason for the breakup and
  • the length of your relationship with your ex-girlfriend.

The length of the relationship you and your ex had determines how much time you have to win back your ex-girlfriend.

So if you had a longer relationship, you have more time to win her back. But if you had been together only for a few months, then giving her three months of space will not be helpful if you want to win back your ex-girlfriend.

The reason for the breakup has a lot of influence on what is the best strategy to win back your ex-girlfriend. For example, if you were too needy before or after the breakup, then you need to give her more space as a first step to win back your ex-girlfriend.

On the other hand, if you did not give your ex-girlfriend enough attention, then you may need to become more active to win back your ex-girlfriend.

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